No matter where Kelsey Martin found himself in his adventure, he was in thrall to some woman. I would like to understand that but can read it only in the manifestation of the same effect in the males of my own experience. That serves more to confuse than to clarify. Consider the son who brings me a page from a found Playboy magazine and asks with all the trust of innocence, “Why is it that when I look at this lady I get a bone in my wee-wee?”
At that time we had no TV, and living in a single mother household this four-year-old had no reference to any prurience. He summoned it, in all purity, from his own small body. This drive to impregnate is central to the definition of maleness. When this blue-eyed angel fixes me with his inquisitive gaze, I need to understand the puzzling happenstance, no less than he does. I do my motherly duty explaining, “Your wee-wee is just doing its job. It’s supposed to do that so that someday you can help make a baby and be a daddy. It’s a good thing and a sign you are growing up just right.” A quick hug and it’s on to other things. He’s off to play; I’m off to work. Life goes on. But the question, looking for some wise insight, remains. The young Kelsey no doubt had a similar discovery, right there between his little legs—something going on that he didn’t understand but sensed that he very much needed to.
Surrounded by the workings of a rural existence, he was privy to the antics of barnyard courtship, where not much was left to a small boy’s imagination. He too was an animal, albeit human, but the comparisons seemed to hold true. Small town rural society was conservative in its policing of mores, and in the 1920’s a nice boy knew pretty much what he could and could not do when it came to nice girls. He complied.
So when the mid-thirties found him heading for college at Weatherford, just a few miles north, his world was taking shape, and doing so beautifully. Mary Opal Tyson, a preacher’s daughter from Decatur, seemed to be everything he had imagined a perfect mate to be. She too was a singer, soprano to his baritone, and a church organist, at the Methodist church house where he was trying out his own oratorical skills. They found each other, married, and made a daughter.
Both parties to the marriage had farm upbringing, so the mechanics of the copulation must have been no surprise. The timing, however, supposes an interesting twist. When asked years later why no additional children graced the marriage, Kelsey replied, “Mary had a terribly hard time in the delivery room. I didn’t want her to have to go through that again.” Baby Dorothy Jeanette’s delivery had occurred in a for-the-time modern hospital, Fort Worth Methodist, but even in that esteemed institution no sedation or pain relief was part of the experience. They just strapped her down and let her scream. Kelsey must have loved Mary a great deal to have been willing to forego any possibility of the son he so much wanted. In those days the only reliable contraception was abstinence. Surely that must have been what sealed the alienation.
That was 1938. Hitler was stirring his evil broth in Europe, and soon war took over the menu. Kelsey took his electronics genius to Raytheon and was assigned to work the Manhattan Project. He was shipped to Ireland to be on that side of the world while the mess got sorted out. When it all reverted to peace and sanity, he came home, but he wasn’t the same. He complained about insufficient libido, not differentiating between passion for work and passion for sex. It’s reasonable to assume neither. Knowing him later as an adult, showed him falling prey to bouts of depression, when it was impossible to find energy to finish projects after the fury of invention was done.
One sure-fire way to deal with such sloughs of despond is to make a new project, or move to a new place, or bed a new woman. When Kelsey came home from the war, he no longer wanted to be a Methodist minister. He didn’t even believe in God. He rattled around the Boston/Cambridge area for a while, and then faded off into hazily identified projects and businesses that took him away, far away. The world accommodated itself to his misadventures, and every time he surfaced in the lives of progeny, he was loosely allied with yet another woman.
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When in 1953, as a high school sophomore, I went to live with him in his Long Island home, he had married Betty. I was happy for him. He and I both knew it had been excruciating to live with Mommy. But before making it to Northport, there was a stop-off. We stayed the night in a hotel close to the airport where he had some business to sort out with an assistant. I had my own hotel room and was feeling pretty swanky about the whole arrangement until, on taking a late stroll on the grounds, I came upon Daddy and his assistant in passionate embrace. I turned around and ran back to my room where I hid and cried myself to sleep.
The next morning the lady assistant took me shopping and bought me a powder blue fluffy jacket and a periwinkle dress too pretty to wear. It was the most beautiful outfit I had ever owned, and I hated it. When we finally made it to Long Island and met Betty and her son Jonothan, my new one-year-old brother, I soon found a time to tell Betty what I had seen. That wasn’t loyal, I suppose, but even then I valued truth over all else. Without it, how can we make sense of anything at all?
Betty was a great mother and seemed to enjoy having babies. When I joined the family, she was very pregnant and soon delivered to Daddy another girl, Leslie Ann Amanda. I was pleased for him, that this time since he had Jono, he could enjoy another pretty little girl as more than a consolation for the boy he had really wanted. By the time he and Betty got around to divorce, they had four, counting me as live-in babysitter and Matthew who followed Leslie. In September of 1956, I took off for Carnegie Tech, and the rest is history. By the time I again visited Daddy, it was 1960. He was cuddling yet a different woman in a lovely seaside cottage in Florida. I was visiting as a benefit to my new baby girl, Melanie, who seemed to have a hard time digesting milk. This was before the time of soy isolates, and the only suggestion the doctor had was to take her to where the sun was shining and then pray. Dale, my first, was along for the adventure. We made it all the way from West Virginia to Florida on the Greyhound bus.
It was a reasonable thing to look again to the big dogs, when Grandpa Martin died, and I needed to make it to the funeral at a time when airfare was a problem. Grandma was sure to be feeling deserted, and somebody needed to help her know that even though the world was a big place, she still mattered. Melanie was a lot better for the sunshine, and after finding out that Daddy was too busy to go to Texas right then to bury his father, I packed my two babies and hopped a greyhound. That was the longest bus ride ever. I had two in diapers—on my lap. No further description is necessary.
When I gave up on the charms of West Virginia and returned to Texas, it was to a father who had in good conscience returned to be there for his mother, Grandma Martin. With no Grandpa, she could live in her home, where she had spent her entire life, only if he came and made that possible. The same prince that was part of him, when he took on an ungainly, marginally-socialized daughter, when all else failed, was there for Grandma as well. He came home to Azle, built a magnificent home on the premier building spot of the entire farmstead, and arranged to work from there instead of trying to be everywhere at once. Just as he was convincing everybody that he was the best of heroes, he met up with a waitress at the Green Oaks Inn and brought her home to warm his bed.
Her name was Marcie. She had the bleached blonde hair that Daddy seemed always to prefer and a great figure. She and Daddy steered clear of human babies but raised a German Shepherd pup that was turning out to be a great watchdog. When I went to work in Dallas and began visiting occasionally with Dale and Lane, we were a disconcerting presence. One day, the boys and I went blackberry picking and brought a boxful to share. Marcie met us at the front door, opening it and freeing the dog that was having a barking conniption. King burst out and ripped Lanes shoulder open, scattering the berries all over the front porch. I took him to the emergency room for stitches. Marcie was livid that I had admitted to the doctors that it was caused by a dog bite. That forced her to quarantine King for rabies. She was enraged that I should have been so inconsiderate. I, of course, wanted to know if the dog was rabid. Sometimes truth is just plain necessary.
It wasn’t long, after that, that Marcie took up with a waiter at the Green Oaks Inn and ran off with him to North Carolina, stopping along the way to max out Daddies credit cards. The Parker County Sherriff, longtime friend of the family, came to the rescue, arranging to have Marcie caught in the act of fraudulent charging. The cards were destroyed, and Marcie faded into being a historical footnote.
But she was soon replaced. Marie came to live with Daddy, bringing her two teen-aged children. Marie had at least a chance of being wife material. No bleached blonde, she wore her hair as the natural brunette that she was. She made at least a try at cooking. As a contrast to Daddy’s atheism, Marie was an ardent Pentecostal. She hadn’t warned him about that. As soon as she was moved in and settled, she announced her intention to convert him to her brand of fundamentalist Christianity. When he refused to accompany her to meetings, she pouted. She prayed for him and asked the neighbors to do so as well. This went on for several years until she finally gave up and moved out, taking her then grown children with her. It was good riddance—not new, but good. This was becoming an old, old story, but with an interesting twist. Marie made a case for a common law marriage and sued Daddy for a sizeable tract of his inherited property. He didn’t fight and simply lost it without a whimper.
Soon another ex-waitress made a try. She moved in and settled down. She didn’t stay long though. One day Daddy returned from a business trip to an empty house. The woman, who didn’t stay long enough for me to learn her name, had left and filled a moving van with all of Daddy’s furniture, that included many pricey antiques. It was enough to make a person miss Marcie or even Marie. She didn’t know much about art, and left more money on the walls that she carted off in her truck. Sometimes ignorance is indeed bliss. The Sheriff again made an appearance, but offered not much more than sympathy. He had hardly anything to go on. He cautioned Daddy to be more careful.
Daddy took the caution to heart and tried to go it alone for a while, just looking after Grandma and Aunt Margaret, and being a Granddad to Dale and Lane. He was lonely, and called a lot, spending time on the phone talking about philosophy and casting about for answers concerning how to deal with his ageing prostate. I wasn’t much good for answers to such conundrums, but at least didn’t pretend that I knew more than I did. It was good to have a Dad that needed me, as I so often had needed him. Then things changed. Someone in the Ft. Worth area introduced him to a fine lady. He asked her out and she agreed. Her name was June. She didn’t move in, but enjoyed the arts and culture that Daddy had always appreciated, but never worked seriously to enjoy with a woman. June didn’t need to con him for money; she was a serious heiress and lived in a mansion in one of Ft. Worth’s classiest neighborhoods. She appreciated his mind and shared his affection for the arts. He probably was a good lover. I hope so. They got married, not a courthouse caper, but a real society wedding. The pictures were beautiful. I had never seen Daddy look so handsome nor seem so happy. It was the irony of my life that I was to be the spoiler.
Years before I had rescued my mother and helped her get situated in a job and an apartment home of her own. She was doing beautifully, but was finding it difficult to live on her meagre Social Security and pitiful earnings as a nurse’s aide. I learned that it was possible for her to draw Social Security based not on her own earnings, but on my father’s, profoundly improving her situation. I had only to help her prove that Daddy had never divorced her and was still married to Mary Opal Martin, his first and only wife. I helped her investigate that old mess and fill out the necessary forms. Sure enough Daddy, playing true to form, had not bothered to actually file his divorce. After talking it over with a divorce attorney, he had just moved on to other interesting things. He had married Betty, fathered three children, suffered through two divorce settlements where he gave up inherited land but didn’t bother to dispute such losses, all without ever recalling that he was still legally married to my mother. The Social Security Administration was sympathetic to Mommy. They agreed to redefine the basis of her claim. Life was good. I was so proud and happy about my legal maneuverings, that when I first visited with Daddy and June in her fine mansion, I regaled them over breakfast with the whole exciting story. Just like my father, I was so caught up in my own doings that I failed to realize how my actions affected others.
I wish I had stopped to think about how a high society bride would react to having married an inadvertent bigamist. I had for so long been mucking about in the detritus of my own family mosh, that I didn’t appreciate how a woman with a dignified upbringing would feel about such machinations. Of course June had the marriage annulled. She parted as a friend, but dumped my Dad only several days beyond the altar. She was a real lady. I crossed paths with her several weeks later. We were both visiting Daddy, she to tie up some dangling loose-ends, I to commiserate with him about being far from perfect. June gave us both a hug and walked out of our lives. She deserved better.
Kelsey Martin loved his children. He was a good man. He was a genius in his field and would have achieved the success he so ardently deserved, if only he had thought with the great head on his shoulders instead of with the little one between his legs. That’s the one that got him into so much trouble. He, too, deserved better.
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